I've got lots of ideas swimming around in my head for my book. Am I allowed to say "my book?" I don't actually have a book deal, much less a book. I have the idea of a book. Whatever. I'm still going to write it even if I'm the only one who ever reads it. My book on struggling with infertility that is... and I want your help! I have chapters pretty much lined up, tackling all the odds and ends I want to make sure I cover. But so far it's only from my own perspective. So enlighten me, will ya? What kind of topics would you want to see covered in a book on one's first hand experience with infertility? This is not just for the infertiles, so read on...
- Fertile friends and sisters, what would you specifically seek to understand about the mess that's going on in your infertile friend's head? How to best approach them? How to ask questions? How to deliver your good news? I'm an only child, so it's hard for me to get the whole sister thing, but I know this is a BIG issue for many. I liken trying to comprehend the "mess" in the infertile head to trying to understand the male species. I will never understand why my husband (or any man) thinks or behaves certain ways, but I can read about it and know that he does a lot of this stuff simply because he's a man. He's just wired that way. In much the same way, a fertile woman can't possibly "get" the funk inside the heart of the infertile woman. But you can read about it and think, "Oh, so that's why she's such a bitch!" Or something like that.
- Moms and Dads, maybe you want to know how best to show your love and support for your daughter? How you respond to her is a big, big deal. I have been incredibly blessed with parents who are behind us ALL the way on our journey, but I have friends who have not been so fortunate. I will definitely have to touch on this important area. What other questions do you have, parents?
- Husbands, how best can you show love to your wife during the struggle? What do you want to know? As if any husbands read this blog, but whatever. I'll be sure to guide them because I know their wives will highlight and dog ear those pages and stick the book in the bathroom for their husband's to stumble over. (Genius move, ladies. But be sure to remove the Sports Illustrated magazines first.)
- Fellow Infertiles, most importantly, what do YOU seek from a book on infertility? There are some good ones out there, but not a lot. What is missing? What kind of support are you looking for? What feelings do you struggle with? Do you have certain thoughts/behaviors that you wonder about (i.e. whether they're "normal")? Do you have trouble finding hope in the midst of all the mess? I'd love to hear your thoughts - any thoughts. As always, feel free to email me if you rather not leave a public comment.
Yep, so I'm just in the "gathering ideas" phase right now. Plotting my path. I doubt I'll get much of any actual writing done till after tax season but I'm definitely compiling thoughts and developing an outline of sorts. So whatever your angle is, if you have something you'd like to see me touch on, please advise! My goal is for this book to be a source to the reader. Yes, it'll detail a lot of my personal struggle, but it's ultimately about helping others find peace in the middle of a war zone. All with a dose of humor, of course. Laughing is an absolute must!
Alright... back to work. I plan to get on here later this week with another book review. Stay tuned!