Saturday, July 14, 2012

Hey, now...

Not surprisingly, my last post ruffled a few feathers.  Kinda funny though since I'm usually the type to avoid conflict like the plague!  I know not everyone shares my opinion, duh.  (And I completely welcome yours here, so long as you play nice.)  But let me lay out a couple of points in an attempt to answer some concerns and then I'll let it rest...

Several of you mentioned the book may not be right for me, but it is for you (or something to that effect).  Fair enough.  I know plenty of friends that have read it. You all are adults (I assume) and can make your own decisions.  And never have I thought anyone is "bad" for reading it, nor am I "good" for not.  My intent was to share my personal decision and why I made it, not to finger point.  But if my words or anyone else's cause you to give pause, I don't think that's ever a bad thing.  What you ultimately decide is of course up to you.  One of the best lessons I've learned - as an adult, mind you - is that the question isn't always "Is this right or wrong?"  Not everything in life is that black and white.  Often, the better question to ask is, "Is this the wise thing to do?"  Given what I know, where I am, and where I want to go... I have to answer, no.  Reading that book is not the wise thing for me to do.

Stuff like this always brings up accusations of "judgment."  As I said, finger-pointing was not my intention and I don't consider anyone who has read the book to be a bad person or bad Christian.  That's ridiculous and nowhere did I say that.  My statements were simply a profession of what I'm personally doing to guard my heart.  But I have to answer the judgment thing because it's one of THE most misunderstood concepts (or whatever you want to call it) in the Bible.  When it comes to people outside our faith, you're right - it's not our place to judge.  Because, hello... they don't play by our rules so why should we hold those people to them?  But God does call us to hold each other accountable, as Christians.  Though - again, that's not even what I was trying to do here.  I really didn't bring Christianity into my post at all.  But porn is an equal opportunity offender, so I think anyone would be wise to give pause before picking it up - Christian or not.  That's really all I would ask of anyone... just think a moment before diving into this book.  My frustration really is not over people reading the book, but more so the hoopla surrounding it and where that has led (namely young girls picking it up, argh).  My post was about my own decision not to read it - not what any of you should do. 

Thanks, as always, for reading.  I value your opinions and welcome them.  And like I said, I'll put this one to rest and venture back to fluffier subjects like pictures of my friggin cute kid. :-)

6 comments:

CrysHouse said...

Thanks. Personally, I thought your post was just what you said. I think we all have a calling to hold each other accountable and speak the truth in love. Frankly, there has been a lot I learned the hard way. Had I been guided away from it with specific reasoning, it might have saved me a lot of trouble.

CharisFaith said...

I loved your last post and thought it was very well thought out and written.

Melissa said...

I just read your last post, and then this one. I read the books out of morbid curiosity. I enjoyed the plot, but actually started skipping the sex scenes by book 2 because they were so repetitive and I just wanted to read the actual story. I made the choice to read them, but I'm an adult and I know that that's not necessarily a normal sexual relationship and not something I would ever do. What bothers me is teen girls reading those books and then doing the stuff in the books. That worries me greatly and if I ever have a daughter I'd hope she doesn't get her hand on books like that.

Lauren & Eddie said...

I totally agree with Melissa, above. I read them just because everyone kept mentioning them. I started skimming over the sex just to read the dialogue between the characters. Certainly not my favorite reads, though. I can't understand what the huge fascination with them is.

Julie Tiemann said...

Just now catching up on blogs, so I just read both of your posts. I'm like you - I shy away from controversies. I usually say (and hopefully it's usually true) that I'm just trying to be loving and show people who Jesus is, but if I'm being honest, sometimes I know I'm just being a friggin' coward. So I give you mad points for standing up for something that's not popular to say. You never know who might be on the fence about something potentially harmful, and by speaking the truth in love, you prevent them a lot of heartache. So, you go, girl.

Carole said...

Hey girl, I'm getting caught up with some of your post as of late. Can't help but say, lol. Really? Ppl crack me up. For the record, I think you're pretty right on. I've heard from a good hand full of screen writers that they dread when the movie of the book comes out, cause the story was so blah. Besides, HUNGER GAMES is SOOOOOOOOOO much better. Go team Peeta!! ;o)